Everyone has tough times – it’s an unfortunate fact of life. Another fact is that we all deal with those tough times in different ways. Some people are great at dealing with hardship – they just blast on through, coping marvellously and flicking the ‘V’ at whatever said hardship is. Others take it one step at a time, claw their way through, getting battered and bruised. And others don’t deal at all. They cry, they scream, they shout; bury their heads in the sand and crumble. None of those ways are right or wrong – like I say, everyone’s different, and we never know just what crap life is going to throw at us. We just have to get through however we can.
I’d say I’m one of those folks that falls somewhere in the middle. I get on with things, and on the surface probably seem as though I’m doing okay. I save my screaming, shouting, crying and meltdowns for behind closed doors.
It’s actually been a really tough couple of years for me, personally. I’ve suffered some major losses. And yes, I got through it, but another thing for me that suffered was my writing. As much as I wish I wasn’t, I’m an easily distracted writer. Noise, activity, annoyance, worry, grief… they can all make it nigh-on impossible for me to get any words down on the page.
I know other people actually use the aforementioned emotions and channel them into their writing. It can be cathartic for them, which is great, and likely produces some incredibly powerful writing. In the past, I have actually done that, and will likely do so in the future. But when times are incredibly tough, I’ll take whatever words my brain sees fit to provide and call them a win. And in the meantime, when things are quiet, I’ll write as much as I possibly can. I call it making hay while the sun shines.
Because, whatever happens, I try to be positive. At times, that’s pretty much impossible, but I do my best. Because that’s all we can ever do, right? Our best. And there’s nothing wrong with that.
What about you? Authors – do you find hard times stifle your writing, or do they spur it on? And non-authors – is there anything you normally do that you just can’t do when there’s something major going on in your life? Let’s talk about it – it’s important to talk about it, so we all know we’re not alone in these feelings.
Happy Reading (or writing, or whatever you’re currently working on!),
Lucy Felthouse is the award-winning author of erotic romance novels Stately Pleasures (named in the top 5 of Cliterati.co.uk’s 100 Modern Erotic Classics That You’ve Never Heard Of, and an Amazon bestseller), Eyes Wide Open (winner of the Love Romances Café’s Best Ménage Book 2015 award, and an Amazon bestseller) and The Persecution of the Wolves. Including novels, short stories and novellas, she has over 150 publications to her name. She owns Erotica For All, and is one eighth of The Brit Babes. Find out more about her writing at http://lucyfelthouse.co.uk, or on Twitter or Facebook. Sign up for automatic updates on Amazon or BookBub. You can also subscribe to her monthly newsletter at: http://eepurl.com/gMQb9