Having to say NO when I don’t want to – by Lynn Burke #WritersLife

I hardly know it all. Really.

But there’s something about having ‘published author’ attached to your name that makes people think you do. In the past few years I’ve had 20 publications but that does NOT make me a pro in the book writing field.

Funny enough, some people believe it does.

A handful of people have contacted me since my journey to publication began to sprout little seedlings, wanting to know if I would write their stories – their memoirs, their unique journeys through this life.

Now don’t get me wrong. I’m not upset by this in the least! Quite honored, actually. BUT, I’m a fiction writer. I don’t have a clue about memoirs or biographies, nor would I even know where to start.

I’ve even had a few pitch their own ideas / plots to me in the hopes that I would write the book for them.

Gulp.

How the heck do you say no to these people? These family members and friends who would do anything for YOU should you ask them??? NOT easy. As soon as someone says to me, “I have an idea I want to share with you” or “I’m wondering if you would be willing to write my life story…”

Yup. That’s my reaction. On the inside, anyway.

What do I say? How do I let them down gently? HOW can I even do either???!! The non-fiction idea peeps are easier to deal with, since I honestly don’t know anything about that market. Even so, I always feel like I’m offering excuses when I should be jumping at the chance to help them.

*Smash head on table*

Oh, but the others – those folks who have a plot line that just needs characters, a world, flesh, voice, and WORDS. Le sigh.

I really have a hard time telling them that it’s nearly impossible (for me) to write a story that wasn’t inspired by my own brain. You other writers know what I’m talking about? Yes, there are anthology calls I’ve submitted to, but ONLY ones that triggered an idea of my own. One my muse ran away with.

If it’s not my fictional baby, my own WiP, I find it impossible to say yes.

So, what do I do?

Encourage them to write it on their own. It’s their story, it should be in their voice, their style. THEN I offer to take a peek at it when they’re finished, or send them onto a rockin’ critique site like Scribophile where they can hone their craft and spit-shine that manuscript for submission.

*big cleansing breath*

How ’bout you? Can you say ‘NO’ when you really feel you shouldn’t / don’t want to? What’s the worst ‘would you mind…’ have you encountered?

Charity Anthology, Nuts About You, Now Available – Post by Lucy Felthouse (@cw1985)

Hi folks,

I’m very excited to announce that the amazing Nuts About You anthology, which is raising money for two cancer charities, is available now – and it’s already doing incredibly well, and has earned a bestseller banner on Amazon! Woohoo!

Here’s what it’s all about:

The Nuts About You charity anthology has stories from 18 different authors and it’s filled with 15 BRAND NEW romance stories written from a male POV all wrapped up in one amazing anthology!

There is something for everyone in this romance anthology, including comedy, contemporary, MC, M/M, erotica, BDSM and more.

It’s not for the faint hearted.

All profit will benefit The Male Cancer Awareness Campaign and Worldwide Cancer Research.

** Warning **

This content is for mature audiences only.

Please don’t not read if explicit language, violence, sexual situations including anything kinky or taboo offend you.

•Accidentally on Purpose by S.E. Hall & Ashley Suzanne
•Ashes to Ashes by Tess Oliver
•Without Question by Lucy Felthouse
•Nutt Cracker by Skye Turner
•Since I Now Have You by S M Phillips
•There’s No Place Like Home by Jade C. Jamison
•Love Letters by Jamie Lake
•Love Thy Neighbour by J. A Melville
•Right Here Waiting by T.a. McKay
•A pets Reward by Don Abdul
•Taco Tuesday by Xavier Neal
•Corban by Esther E. Schmidt
•First Ink by Amy L. Gale
•My Wicked Stepsister by T.S. Irons
•Catching Mallory by Xana Jordan
•The Ball In My Court by T.H. Snyder
•A Beautiful Heart by Michelle Rene

So, what are you waiting for? Grab your copy from one of the following places, and please do tell all your friends about this amazing collection, which is for such a good cause!

Amazon (universal link)
Barnes & Noble
Kobo

And don’t forget to add it to your Goodreads shelves: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/34409833

Happy Reading!

Lucy x

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Author Bio:

Lucy Felthouse is the award-winning author of erotic romance novels Stately Pleasures (named in the top 5 of Cliterati.co.uk’s 100 Modern Erotic Classics That You’ve Never Heard Of, and an Amazon bestseller), Eyes Wide Open (winner of the Love Romances Café’s Best Ménage Book 2015 award, and an Amazon bestseller) and The Persecution of the Wolves. Including novels, short stories and novellas, she has over 150 publications to her name. She owns Erotica For All, and is one eighth of The Brit Babes. Find out more about her writing at http://lucyfelthouse.co.uk, or on Twitter or Facebook. Sign up for automatic updates on Amazon or BookBub. You can also subscribe to her monthly newsletter at: http://eepurl.com/gMQb9

Writing Through Tough Times by Lucy Felthouse (@cw1985) #writerlife

Hi folks,

Everyone has tough times – it’s an unfortunate fact of life. Another fact is that we all deal with those tough times in different ways. Some people are great at dealing with hardship – they just blast on through, coping marvellously and flicking the ‘V’ at whatever said hardship is. Others take it one step at a time, claw their way through, getting battered and bruised. And others don’t deal at all. They cry, they scream, they shout; bury their heads in the sand and crumble. None of those ways are right or wrong – like I say, everyone’s different, and we never know just what crap life is going to throw at us. We just have to get through however we can.

I’d say I’m one of those folks that falls somewhere in the middle. I get on with things, and on the surface probably seem as though I’m doing okay. I save my screaming, shouting, crying and meltdowns for behind closed doors.

It’s actually been a really tough couple of years for me, personally. I’ve suffered some major losses. And yes, I got through it, but another thing for me that suffered was my writing. As much as I wish I wasn’t, I’m an easily distracted writer. Noise, activity, annoyance, worry, grief… they can all make it nigh-on impossible for me to get any words down on the page.

I know other people actually use the aforementioned emotions and channel them into their writing. It can be cathartic for them, which is great, and likely produces some incredibly powerful writing. In the past, I have actually done that, and will likely do so in the future. But when times are incredibly tough, I’ll take whatever words my brain sees fit to provide and call them a win. And in the meantime, when things are quiet, I’ll write as much as I possibly can. I call it making hay while the sun shines.

Because, whatever happens, I try to be positive. At times, that’s pretty much impossible, but I do my best. Because that’s all we can ever do, right? Our best. And there’s nothing wrong with that.

What about you? Authors – do you find hard times stifle your writing, or do they spur it on? And non-authors – is there anything you normally do that you just can’t do when there’s something major going on in your life? Let’s talk about it – it’s important to talk about it, so we all know we’re not alone in these feelings.

Happy Reading (or writing, or whatever you’re currently working on!),

Lucy x

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Author Bio:

Lucy Felthouse is the award-winning author of erotic romance novels Stately Pleasures (named in the top 5 of Cliterati.co.uk’s 100 Modern Erotic Classics That You’ve Never Heard Of, and an Amazon bestseller), Eyes Wide Open (winner of the Love Romances Café’s Best Ménage Book 2015 award, and an Amazon bestseller) and The Persecution of the Wolves. Including novels, short stories and novellas, she has over 150 publications to her name. She owns Erotica For All, and is one eighth of The Brit Babes. Find out more about her writing at http://lucyfelthouse.co.uk, or on Twitter or Facebook. Sign up for automatic updates on Amazon or BookBub. You can also subscribe to her monthly newsletter at: http://eepurl.com/gMQb9