It isn’t intentional – that’s just the way the stories develop, and it has been interesting exploring some of the more extreme ideas for spicing up the romance. A couple playing an erotic game of voyeur & exhibitionist with their sexy neighbor in Not Vanilla (Voyeurism), for example. Bringing out the spanking paddle and nipple clamps in Not Vanilla (Spanking). How about letting an extra play-mate into the bed in ménage stories Platinum Passion or Sex Club Secrets?
Don’t want to go quite that far in real life? Here are five ideas I may (or may not!) use for rekindling the romance and passion:
- Date night
Yep. Good old date night might sound about as passionless as “common sense”, but to do something as a couple, minus kids, is really quite exciting. Even if its as simple as dinner at a local cafe or going to a movie. Better yet, pretend you don’t know one another and hook up in the bar with that sexy “stranger” who somehow seems very familiar!
- Phone calls
If your partner goes away on business, take advantage! Call each other and talk dirty over the phone. Late at night, with the kids asleep and you locked away in your bedroom – it can be incredibly exciting to hear the change in your partner’s tone as he or she starts to get turned on. If you fully trust each other, why not add a bit of texting, or “sexting”, into the mix, as well?
- Surprise your partner
You wear flannel PJs to bed, and he can’t be bothered trying anything ‘cos it would take him 3 hours to undo all those buttons and find you amongst the layers of fabric? Yep – I’m guilty of that! Slip into bed one night in something sexy, or just head off to bed in your birthday suit. Skin against skin – there’s nothing more enticing, especially if you haven’t felt it for a while!
- Add some toys
Always fun! There are so many options out there these days – vibrators, strap-ons, prostate ticklers, spanking paddles, whips, cuffs, blindfolds, ben-wa balls… you name it! Do an internet search if you’re too shy to visit your local sexy store! The postage is generally very discreet 😉
- Role play
Now this one is limited only by your imagination. Stepping outside yourself and into a role, even if just for a short time, can be incredibly liberating. Dom/sub, sexy cop, teacher’s pet, superhero, princess/servant, bad girl, biker dude… whatever floats your boat. Have a look at internet fancy dress costume shops if your own imagination doesn’t give you the ideas you need.
Do you have any favorite go-to ideas when it comes to rekindling the passion? Please share – I’d love to hear them!
When Jennifer is not writing what her family and friends call “porn for chicks” and what she prefers to call “super-hot romance for intelligent readers”, she’s working in the day job, running around after teenage children and trying to find time for her husband. She is published with Red Sage and formerly with Breathless Press, and is indie-published with her GODS OF LOVE romance series featuring erotic Greek gods and modern-day mortals in need of sexual healing. More recently she has co-authored the highly erotic NOT VANILLA series with USA Today Bestselling Author, Roz Lee. Find out more at her website or sign up for her newsletter here.
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